A recognisable situation
A father wants the family home to remain in the family at all costs. At the same time, it turns out that none of the children want to live there and the maintenance is burdensome. The difficult moment is not the sale itself. It is acknowledging that the house no longer holds the same place in the family.
A question to consider
If you start from what really is today, and not from what you had hoped for, which choice then becomes clearer to you?
In plain words
I explain it like this: first we look at what really is. Only then do we decide what that means for you. Acknowledging a fact is not the same as liking it.
The nuance
Never make acceptance the same as approval. Someone can acknowledge a reality yet still find it painful or unfair.
Explanation in own words at What truly moves people and the speakers’ compass. Book p. 9; speakers’ compass p. 3.
Practice this insight